No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes at times and finds themselves in situations where an apology is needed.
Considerate, smart, and confident people know how to give a sincere apology.
The do’s and don’ts of a genuine and heartfelt apology:
DO use good eye contact.
DON’T simply throw out a quick, “I’m sorry.”
DO take responsibility for your actions. For example, “I’m so sorry I was careless and arrived so late to pick you up.”
DON’T make excuses.
DO explain how you plan to be sure this does not happen again. For example, “From now on I will set my phone alarm to remind me to leave the house on time.”
DO your best to make things right. If you need to repair or replace something than be sure to do so. If you think a follow up handwritten note is needed, then send one.
DO ask if there’s anything more you can do to make things better between you and the person you’re apologizing to.
How to apologize is an important skill to teach your children. To help you, I’ve created a how-to sheet with family discussion activities. Enter your email here: